Better Ways tO dEAL WITH HEARTBREAK
(Bahá’í Inspired Thoughts)
QUOTES From the video
Learn what real love is: Selfless
The Valley of Love
“The steed of this Valley is pain; and if there be no pain this journey will never end. In this station the lover hath no thought save the Beloved, and seeketh no refuge save the Friend. At every moment he offereth a hundred lives in the path of the Loved One, at every step he throweth a thousand heads at the feet of the Beloved.”
(Bahá’u’lláh -The Seven Valleys And the Four Valleys)
Learn from this test
“Tests are benefits from God, for which we should thank Him. Grief and sorrow do not come to us by chance, they are sent to us by the Divine Mercy for our own perfecting.”
(‘Abdu’l-Bahá – Paris Talks)
let go - Trust God
“Trust in God in all matters.”
(‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Tablets of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá v2, p. 413)
Thank god for this test
“As to the calamities and afflictions of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá: “These are not calamities, but bounties; they are not afflictions, but gifts; not hardships, but tranquillity; not trouble, but mercy—and we thank God for this great favor.”
(‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Tablets of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá v1, p. 128)
CHOOSE JOY - LIVE IN THE SPIRIT
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
“Be not the slave of your moods, but their master. But if you are so angry, so depressed and so sore that your spirit cannot find deliverance and peace even in prayer, then quickly go and give some pleasure to someone lowly or sorrowful, or to a guilty or innocent sufferer! Sacrifice yourself, your talent, your time, your rest to another, to one who has to bear a heavier load than you — and your unhappy mood will dissolve into a blessed, contented submission to God.”
( ‘Abdu’l-Bahá – Star of the West)
LEARN THAT REAL LOVE REQUIRES SACRIFICE
“In the world of existence there is indeed no greater power than the power of love. When the heart of man is aglow with the flame of love, he is ready to sacrifice all—even his life.”
(‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Paris Talks, p. 179-180)
DETACH - ALL YOU NEED IS GOD
“Say: God sufficeth all things above all things, and nothing in the heavens or in the earth but God sufficeth. Verily, He is in Himself the Knower, the Sustainer, the Omnipotent.”
REMEMBER THE TRUE REASON OF YOUR EXISTENCE
“I bear witness, O my God, that Thou hast created me to know Thee and to worship Thee. I testify, at this moment, to my powerlessness and to Thy might, to my poverty and to Thy wealth.
There is none other God but Thee, the Help in Peril, the Self-Subsisting.”
(Bahá’u’lláh – Short Obligatory Prayer)
remember: this too shall pass
“Should anyone at any time encounter hard and perplexing times, he must say to himself, “This too will pass.”’ He added, ‘When experiencing difficulties, I would say to myself, “this too will pass away”, and I would become calm again.”’”
(Honnold, Annamarie, Vignettes from the Life of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá, p. 158)
GOD KNOWS WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU
“O God! Refresh and gladden my spirit. Purify my heart. Illumine my powers. I lay all my affairs in Thy hand. Thou art my Guide and my Refuge. I will no longer be sorrowful and grieved; I will be a happy and joyful being. O God! I will no longer be full of anxiety, nor will I let trouble harass me. I will not dwell on the unpleasant things of life.
O God! Thou art more friend to me than I am to myself. I dedicate myself to Thee, O Lord.”
OTHER HELPFUL QUOTES
He that giveth up himself wholly to God, God shall, assuredly, be with him; and he that placeth his complete trust in God, God shall, verily, protect him from whatsoever may harm him, and shield him from the wickedness of every evil plotter.
(Bahá’u’lláh, The Proclamation of Bahá’u’lláh, p. 47)
We must welcome affliction and tribulations as opportunities for improvement in our eternal selves.
(Universal House of Justice, Lights of Guidance, p. 367)
Grieve not at the divine trials. Be not troubled because of hardships and ordeals; turn unto God, bowing in humbleness and praying to Him, while bearing every ordeal, contented under all conditions and thankful in every difficulty. Verily thy Lord loveth His maidservants who are patient, believing and firm. He draws them nigh unto Him through these ordeals and trials.
(‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Tablets of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá v1, p. 50)
“Tests and trials only cause agitation to weak hearts.”
(‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Tablets of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá v2, p. 251)
O thou handmaid aflame with the fire of God’s love! Grieve thou not over the troubles and hardships of this nether world, nor be thou glad in times of ease and comfort, for both shall pass away. This present life is even as a swelling wave, or a mirage, or drifting shadows. Could ever a distorted image on the desert serve as refreshing waters? No, by the Lord of Lords! Never can reality and the mere semblance of reality be one, and wide is the difference between fancy and fact, between truth and the phantom thereof.
Know thou that the Kingdom is the real world, and this nether place is only its shadow stretching out. A shadow hath no life of its own; its existence is only a fantasy, and nothing more; it is but images reflected in water, and seeming as pictures to the eye.
Rely upon God. Trust in Him. Praise Him, and call Him continually to mind. He verily turneth trouble into ease, and sorrow into solace, and toil into utter peace. He verily hath dominion over all things.
If thou wouldst hearken to my words, release thyself from the fetters of whatsoever cometh to pass. Nay rather, under all conditions thank thou thy loving Lord, and yield up thine affairs unto His Will that worketh as He pleaseth. This verily is better for thee than all else, in either world.
( Selections From the Writings of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá)
If a man has ten good qualities and one bad one, to look at the ten and forget the one; and if a man has ten bad qualities and one good one, to look at the one and forget the ten.
(‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Bahá’u’lláh and the New Era, p. 83)
In the moment of catastrophe, find ye patience, resignation and submission.
(‘Abdu’l-Bahá, Tablets of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá v1, p. 45)
THINGS TO LEARN FROM THIS EXPERIENCE
- How to master your emotions
- Trust in God
- Becoming the person you want to be – personal development
- True love (SELFLESS LOVE) – giving
- Detachment: GOD SUFFICETH