Why You Should Love Yourself

'ABDU'L-bAHÁ on "ego-love"

Abdu’l-Baha had this to say of selfishness: ‘Self-love is a strange trait and the means of the destruction of many important souls in the world. If man be imbued with all good qualities but be selfish, all the other virtues will fade or pass away and eventually he will grow worse. ’

Vignettes from the Life of 'Abdu'l-Bahá


"If the travelers seek after the goal of the Intended One ... this station appertaineth to the self — but that self which is 'The Self of God standing within Him with laws.' "On this plane, the self is not rejected but beloved; it is well-pleasing and not to be shunned. Although at the beginning, this plane is the realm of conflict, yet it endeth in attainment to the throne of splendor... "This is the plane of the self which is well-pleasing unto God. Refer to the verse: 'Oh, thou soul which art well-assured / Return to thy Lord, well-pleased, and pleasing unto Him ... Enter thou among My servants, / And enter thou My paradise.'"

Bahá'u'lláh - The Seven Valleys And the Four Valleys - The first valley

The quotes

"Regarding the questions you asked: Self has really two meanings, or is used in two senses, in the Bahá’í writings: one is self, the identity of the individual created by God. This is the self mentioned in such passages as 'he hath known God who hath known himself etc.'. The other self is the ego, the dark, animalistic heritage each one of us has, the lower nature that can develop into a monster of selfishness, brutality, lust and so on. It is this self we must struggle against, or this side of our natures, in order to strengthen and free the spirit within us and help it to attain perfection."

Shoghi Effendi - Lights of Guidance

"Real love is impossible unless one turn his face towards God and be attracted to His Beauty…"

'Abdu'l-Bahá - Tablets of Abdul-Baha Abbas

" is light, no matter in what abode it dwelleth; and hate is darkness, no matter where it may make its nest."

'Abdu'l-Bahá - Selections From the Writings of ‘Abdu’l-Bahá

"He hath known God who hath known himself."

Bahá’u’lláh - Gleanings from the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh

"O Son of Man! Veiled in My immemorial being and in the ancient eternity of My essence, I knew My love for thee; therefore I created thee, have engraved on thee Mine image and revealed to thee My beauty."

Bahá'u'lláh - The Hidden Words

Bahá'u'lláh points to that vast unknown in ourselves when he quotes in the Seven Valleys the verse of a well-known Persian poet: "Dost thou reckon thyself only a puny form / When within thee the universe if folded?"

Bahá'u'lláh - The Seven Valleys

"O SON OF DUST! All that is in heaven and earth I have ordained for thee, except the human heart, which I have made the habitation of My beauty and glory; yet thou didst give My home and dwelling to another than Me; and whenever the manifestation of My holiness sought His own abode, a stranger found He there, and, homeless, hastened unto the sanctuary of the Beloved. Notwithstanding I have concealed thy secret and desired not thy shame."

Bahá'u'lláh - The Hidden Words

"O My servants! Could ye apprehend with what wonders of My munificence and bounty I have willed to entrust your souls, ye would, of a truth, rid yourselves of attachment to all created things, and would gain a true knowledge of your own selves—a knowledge which is the same as the comprehension of Mine own Being. Ye would find yourselves independent of all else but Me, and would perceive, with your inner and outer eye, and as manifest as the revelation of My effulgent Name, the seas of My loving-kindness and bounty moving within you. Suffer not your idle fancies, your evil passions, your insincerity and blindness of heart to dim the luster, or stain the sanctity, of so lofty a station. Ye are even as the bird which soareth, with the full force of its mighty wings and with complete and joyous confidence, through the immensity of the heavens, until, impelled to satisfy its hunger, it turneth longingly to the water and clay of the earth below it, and, having been entrapped in the mesh of its desire, findeth itself impotent to resume its flight to the realms whence it came. Powerless to shake off the burden weighing on its sullied wings, that bird, hitherto an inmate of the heavens, is now forced to seek a dwelling-place upon the dust. Wherefore, O My servants, defile not your wings with the clay of waywardness and vain desires, and suffer them not to be stained with the dust of envy and hate, that ye may not be hindered from soaring in the heavens of My divine knowledge."

Bahá'u'lláh - Gleanings From the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh

"O SON OF SPIRIT! I created thee rich, why dost thou bring thyself down to poverty? Noble I made thee, wherewith dost thou abase thyself? Out of the essence of knowledge I gave thee being, why seekest thou enlightenment from anyone beside Me? Out of the clay of love I molded thee, how dost thou busy thyself with another? Turn thy sight unto thyself, that thou mayest find Me standing within thee, mighty, powerful and self-subsisting."

Bahá'u'lláh - The Hidden Words

"Regard man as a mine rich in gems of inestimable value."

Bahá'u'lláh - Gleanings from the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh

"O SON OF BEING! Thou art My lamp and My light is in thee. Get thou from it thy radiance and seek none other than Me. For I have created thee rich and have bountifully shed My favor upon thee."

Bahá'u'lláh - The Hidden Words

"The third is the love of God towards the Self or Identity of God. This is the transfiguration of His Beauty, the reflection of Himself in the mirror of His Creation. This is the reality of love, the Ancient Love, the Eternal Love. Through one ray of this Love all other love exists."

'Abdu'l-Bahá - Paris Talks

"...order your lives in accordance with the first principle of the divine teaching, which is love."

'Abdu'l-Bahá - The Promulgation of Universal Peace

"Walk thou high above the world of being through the power of the Most Great Name, that thou mayest become aware of the immemorial mysteries and be acquainted with that wherewith no one is acquainted. Verily, thy Lord is the Helper, the All-Knowing, the All-Informed. Be thou as a throbbing artery, pulsating in the body of the entire creation, that through the heat generated by this motion there may appear that which will quicken the hearts of those who hesitate."

Bahá’u’lláh - Tablets of Bahá’u’lláh Revealed After the Kitáb-i-Aqdas

"O FRIEND! In the garden of thy heart plant naught but the rose of love, and from the nightingale of affection and desire loosen not thy hold. Treasure the companionship of the righteous and eschew all fellowship with the ungodly."

Bahá'u'lláh - The Hidden Words